Companionship is beautiful! We’re social creatures with the burning desire to share our experiences with others. The principal avenue through which we fulfill and appease that fervent desire is through the relationships we conceive and foster.
But… do all relationships work out and exceed our expectations? Not necessarily, especially when couples are eager to throw in the cards, so to speak.
Are you trying to make your relationship work? What fences have you constructed over the past few months or years to protect what you’ve built?
Is there anything you can do to make your relationship work or get the most out of it? Here are a few suggestions you might want to hold dear to your heart.
7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship
- Do Things Together
Singleness affords you the liberty to do any and everything alone. Once in a relationship, that notion should change. A relationship in which both parties live single and separate lives is a recipe for disaster, heading straight to the cliffs.
Allow your mate to participate in your daily activities. Could you visit the stores together to pick up a few things? Ladies, could you accompany your man to the barbershop for a haircut? What about chores around the home? Men, do you get involved? Time is precious and should be spent with your mate. Get to know each other more and grow in love, not apart.
Partners can be absolute strangers. Many will relate how lonely they are in their relationships. Is that you? Don’t allow a lack of communication to incite suspicion, lack of trust, and loneliness within what should be a haven. Share your thoughts without coercion. Communication should be offered voluntarily and not dragged or beaten out of you with a sledgehammer. Rest your trust completely in the bosom of your mate; be like a slaughter to the lamb. Be comfortable opening up and remember that your mate is no stranger.
Communication is often a challenge for men. Wives are expected to demonstrate extraordinary patience to get their husbands talking. Just to be practical, ask thought-provocative questions to get and keep your mate involved. Vigorous effort is needed to get a man’s trust, especially if he’s been sorely hurt before.
- Respect Each Other
Respect is tantamount to the longevity of any relationship – platonic or otherwise. Respect should be cultivated. Respect comes in various forms. Are you supportive of your husband? Do you quickly dodge listening to the sensitivities and concerns of your woman? Once you’re willing to respect your mate, even if it’s undeserving, you’ll be making every effort to make amends; whereby, making the most out of your relationship.
- Keep Outside Influence to a Minimal
Are you the type of woman to run pointlessly to your girls when your man doesn’t deliver as anticipated? Men, do you still rely on your mother for every bit of advice? Undoubtedly, the aforementioned entities might possess a wealth of knowledge and experience when dealing with relationship hiccups, but really, do they need to know everything that goes down within your household?
Granted, you love your family, but they’ll never comprehend your relationship as you do, not even the slightest clue.
Keep assistance and counsel from the outside world to a minimal. Take whatever advice you get with a grain of salt; always consider the implications of doing things this way, against that way.
It’s easy to take sides, maybe depending on who’s involved. Never put the credibility of information received from relatives and friends above your mate’s. It’s always important to give people the benefit of the doubt.
- Do Things for Each Other
No, you’re not an errand person, but doing things for your mate is a healthy aspect of your relationship. Are you aware that your mate likes a particular dish for breakfast? Why not make every effort to fulfill that desire? Relationships aren’t structured or defined by who is able to get things done, but every effort made to do things for your spouse, is an indication of love and respect.
- Compromise – Make Concessions
Compromising or finding a common ground is not easy, but plausible. Seek out the interests of others. That’s the most rational principle to shadow when making attempts to compromise.
I’m not sending you on a self-denial campaign, but I’m simply exhorting you to take your mate’s interest into consideration. Seeing that through can be excruciatingly difficult, especially if you’re just jumping from a life of singleness, where you’re accustomed to doing whatever floats your boat.
Meet your spouse halfway and take things from there. Making habitual self-assessments could also do a world of good. Ask yourself: Do I always insist on having things done my way? Do I really need this or would it benefit my mate more fully? How can I put my mate’s interests first?
Willingness to compromise deepens love and respect within a relationship. It fortifies the walls of your union and creates peaceful relations. To supplement, it shows the unselfish spirit you possess. Undoubtedly, exerting every attempt to make concession is not only worth it, but it affords you the privilege of getting the most out of your relationship. When you take the initiative to compromise, your mate will likely reciprocate.
- Set Relationship Goals
No… In no way am I alluding to those ridiculous YouTube videos with couples doing silly stuff. Serious goals! These should add flavor to your relationship and draw you closer together. Goals that actually matters and will make you better individuals, both in your marriage and to society.
Try to read the Bible together or learn a second language to help people in need. What about spending more time together or with the kids? Could you both make it a goal to discover new ways to express love to each other daily?
Goals serve as guides. With the right goals, you and your mate could build a fortified and solid union, one that will actually last until death severs the bond.
Are you ready to get the most out of your relationship? Work on the aforementioned tips and suggestions and things will fall in place.